תניאTanya Explained

פרק יב

Chapter 12: The Beinoni: Mind Over Heart

In short

Chapter 12 describes the beinoni, the person this whole book is written for. He never sins, not even in thought, and yet his animal soul is as alive as ever; only at set times, above all during prayer, is it quiet. What keeps him clean all day is something built into every human being: the mind rules the heart.

1.Clean in thought, speech and action

וְהַבֵּינוֹנִי הוּא שֶׁלְּעוֹלָם אֵין הָרַע גּוֹבֵר כָּל כָּךְ לִכְבֹּשׁ אֶת הָעִיר קְטַנָּה, לְהִתְלַבֵּשׁ בַּגּוּף לְהַחֲטִיאוֹ. דְּהַיְנוּ שֶׁשְּׁלֹשֶׁת לְבוּשֵׁי נֶפֶשׁ הַבַּהֲמִית, שֶׁהֵם מַחֲשָׁבָה דִּבּוּר וּמַעֲשֶׂה שֶׁמִּצַּד הַקְּלִפָּה, אֵין גּוֹבְרִים בּוֹ עַל נֶפֶשׁ הָאֱלֹהִית לְהִתְלַבֵּשׁ בַּגּוּף, בַּמֹּחַ וּבַפֶּה וּבִשְׁאָר רְמַ"ח אֵבָרִים לְהַחֲטִיאָם וּלְטַמְּאָם חַס וְשָׁלוֹם,

רַק שְׁלֹשָׁה לְבוּשֵׁי נֶפֶשׁ הָאֱלֹהִית הֵם לְבַדָּם מִתְלַבְּשִׁים בַּגּוּף, שֶׁהֵם מַחֲשָׁבָה דִּבּוּר וּמַעֲשֶׂה שֶׁל תַּרְיָ"ג מִצְוֹת הַתּוֹרָה. וְלֹא עָבַר עֲבֵרָה מִיָּמָיו וְלֹא יַעֲבֹר לְעוֹלָם, וְלֹא נִקְרָא עָלָיו שֵׁם רָשָׁע אֲפִלּוּ שָׁעָה אַחַת וְרֶגַע אֶחָד כָּל יָמָיו.

Translation

A beinoni is a person in whom evil never gains enough strength to capture the “small city” by entering the body and causing it to sin. In other words, the animal soul’s three garments, the thought, speech and deed that stem from kelipah, never get the upper hand over his G‑dly soul to the extent of taking hold of his body, whether his brain, his mouth or any other of his 248 limbs, so as to lead them into sin and defile them, G‑d forbid.

The body is occupied only by the G‑dly soul’s three garments, and by nothing else: thinking, speaking and doing the Torah’s 613 mitzvos. Never in his life has he sinned, nor will he ever sin, and at no time, not for a single hour or instant, has he earned the title “rasha”.

Explanation

Chapters 10 and 11 described the tzaddik and the rasha. Now comes the beinoni, the “in-between” person. In the picture from chapter 9, two kings fight over one small city, the body. In the beinoni the animal soul never takes the city: forbidden thought, speech and action never reach his brain, mouth or limbs. Only the G‑dly soul’s garments do. From the outside he lives exactly like a tzaddik.

“He has never sinned and never will” does not mean that someone who once sinned, and has truly done teshuvah, can never become a beinoni, or that he has lost his free choice. It describes where he stands now: in his present life, sin simply has no room. The tests that once brought him down would no longer do so, and neither would any that lie ahead. Someone who holds back only because today’s tests happen to be easy is not yet a beinoni; in potential he is still a rasha.

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2.Prayer: a time without struggle

אַךְ מַהוּת וְעַצְמוּת נֶפֶשׁ הָאֱלֹהִית, שֶׁהֵן עֶשֶׂר בְּחִינוֹתֶיהָ, לֹא לָהֶן לְבַדָּן הַמְּלוּכָה וְהַמֶּמְשָׁלָה בָּעִיר קְטַנָּה, כִּי אִם בְּעִתִּים מְזֻמָּנִים, כְּמוֹ בִּשְׁעַת קְרִיאַת שְׁמַע וּתְפִלָּה, שֶׁהִיא שְׁעַת מוֹחִין דְּגַדְלוּת לְמַעְלָה, וְגַם לְמַטָּה הִיא שְׁעַת הַכֹּשֶׁר לְכָל אָדָם, שֶׁאָז מְקַשֵּׁר חָכְמָה בִּינָה וָדַעַת שֶׁלּוֹ לַה' לְהַעֲמִיק דַּעְתּוֹ בִּגְדֻלַּת אֵין סוֹף בָּרוּךְ הוּא, וּלְעוֹרֵר אֶת הָאַהֲבָה כְּרִשְׁפֵּי אֵשׁ בֶּחָלָל הַיְּמָנִי שֶׁבְּלִבּוֹ, לְדָבְקָה בּוֹ בְּקִיּוּם הַתּוֹרָה וּמִצְוֹתֶיהָ מֵאַהֲבָה, שֶׁזֶּהוּ עִנְיָן הַמְּבֹאָר בִּקְרִיאַת שְׁמַע דְּאוֹרַיְתָא. וּבִרְכוֹתֶיהָ שֶׁלְּפָנֶיהָ וּלְאַחֲרֶיהָ שֶׁהֵן מִדְּרַבָּנָן, הֵן הֲכָנָה לְקִיּוּם הַקְּרִיאַת שְׁמַע, כְּמוֹ שֶׁנִּתְבָּאֵר בְּמָקוֹם אַחֵר. וְאָז הָרַע שֶׁבֶּחָלָל הַשְּׂמָאלִי כָּפוּף וּבָטֵל לַטּוֹב, הַמִּתְפַּשֵּׁט בֶּחָלָל הַיְּמָנִי מֵחָכְמָה בִּינָה וָדַעַת שֶׁבַּמֹּחַ הַמְּקֻשָּׁרִים בִּגְדֻלַּת אֵין סוֹף בָּרוּךְ הוּא.

Translation

Yet the G‑dly soul’s own essence, its ten faculties, does not govern the small city by itself, except at particular times, such as while reciting the Shema and praying. That hour is one of “expanded consciousness” (mochin d’gadlus) in the higher worlds, and here below as well it is an auspicious time for everyone. At such a time he attaches his chochmah, binah and daas (wisdom, understanding and knowledge) to G‑d, reflecting at length on how great the Ein Sof (the Infinite One), blessed be He, is, and kindles a fiery love in the right side of his heart, longing to be joined to Him through loving observance of the Torah and its mitzvos. That is the theme of the Shema, a Torah obligation, and of the blessings that precede and follow it, a Rabbinic institution meant to prepare a person to carry out the Shema, as is discussed elsewhere. At that time the evil on the left side is overpowered and made void by the goodness flowing through the right side out of the chochmah, binah and daas in his mind, attached as they are to the greatness of the Ein Sof, blessed be He.

Explanation

Thought, speech and action are only the soul’s garments. Its “essence” is its ten powers, its mind and feelings, and there the G‑dly soul does not rule alone. His animal soul still wants what it wants.

The exception is set times, above all prayer, when a great light shines above and anyone can rise. The beinoni thinks deeply about G‑d’s greatness until the thought becomes a burning love, and the love becomes a longing to cleave to G‑d through Torah and mitzvos. That is the order of the Shema itself: understanding, love, mitzvos. The blessings around it prepare the heart for it (see chapter 49).

While this love burns, the evil in his heart is subdued. He does not even feel it. But nothing in it has changed; it has only been quieted.

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3.After prayer: the desire wakes, the mind still rules

אֲבָל אַחַר הַתְּפִלָּה בְּהִסְתַּלְּקוּת הַמֹּחִין דְּגַדְלוּת אֵין סוֹף בָּרוּךְ הוּא, הֲרֵי הָרַע חוֹזֵר וְנֵעוֹר בֶּחָלָל הַשְּׂמָאלִי, וּמִתְאַוֶּה תַּאֲוָה לְתַאֲווֹת עוֹלָם הַזֶּה וְתַעֲנוּגָיו.

רַק מִפְּנֵי שֶׁלֹּא לוֹ לְבַדּוֹ מִשְׁפַּט הַמְּלוּכָה וְהַמֶּמְשָׁלָה בָּעִיר, אֵינוֹ יָכוֹל לְהוֹצִיא תַּאֲוָתוֹ מִכֹּחַ אֶל הַפֹּעַל לְהִתְלַבֵּשׁ בְּאֵבְרֵי הַגּוּף בְּמַעֲשֶׂה דִּבּוּר וּמַחֲשָׁבָה מַמָּשׁ, לְהַעֲמִיק מַחֲשַׁבְתּוֹ בְּתַעֲנוּגֵי עוֹלָם הַזֶּה אֵיךְ לְמַלֹּאת תַּאֲוַת לִבּוֹ. כִּי הַמֹּחַ שַׁלִּיט עַל הַלֵּב [כְּמוֹ שֶׁכָּתוּב בַּזֹּהַר פָּרָשַׁת פִּינְחָס] בְּתוֹלַדְתּוֹ וְטֶבַע יְצִירָתוֹ, שֶׁכָּךְ נוֹצַר הָאָדָם בְּתוֹלַדְתּוֹ, שֶׁכָּל אָדָם יָכוֹל בִּרְצוֹנוֹ שֶׁבְּמֹחוֹ לְהִתְאַפֵּק וְלִמְשֹׁל בְּרוּחַ תַּאֲוָתוֹ שֶׁבְּלִבּוֹ, שֶׁלֹּא לְמַלֹּאת מִשְׁאֲלוֹת לִבּוֹ בְּמַעֲשֶׂה דִּבּוּר וּמַחֲשָׁבָה, וּלְהַסִּיחַ דַּעְתּוֹ לְגַמְרֵי מִתַּאֲוַת לִבּוֹ אֶל הַהֵפֶךְ לְגַמְרֵי. וּבִפְרָט אֶל צַד הַקְּדֻשָּׁה,

Translation

But after prayer, when the “great mind” of the Ein Sof, blessed be He, departs, the evil in the left chamber wakes up again, and he desires the pleasures of this world and its delights.

Still, since the evil lacks sole sovereignty over the city, it is unable to turn its longing into deed, that is, to enter the body’s limbs through action, speech or actual thought, meaning deliberate reflection on worldly pleasures and on ways to satisfy what his heart craves. For the mind governs the heart (as the Raya Mehemna states in Parshas Pinchas); that is simply how it was created. Every human being is built this way from birth: by the will seated in his mind, anyone can restrain himself and master the urge of the heart, refusing to carry out what it craves in action, speech or thought, and can direct his attention entirely away from that craving toward its exact opposite, holiness above all.

Explanation

When prayer ends, the animal soul wakes up as strong as before, and the man who was all love now wants the pleasures of this world. That is the normal life of a beinoni, not proof that his prayer was false.

But the desire cannot act, because the G‑dly soul in the brain has its say too, and the brain rules the heart by nature. With the will in his mind every person can hold back the strongest craving and keep it out of deed, speech and even “actual thought”, meaning deliberately dwelling on the pleasure and planning how to get it. He can even turn his attention elsewhere entirely. Feeling the pull is not the problem; letting it act is.

Why, then, does the heart so often win? A mashal: two wrestlers, one clearly stronger. If the stronger one is asleep, the weaker can pin him, and that proves nothing about who is stronger. When the heart wins, it is often because the mind was never brought into the fight. Every person is able to rule his heart; using that ability is the avodah, and the beinoni never fails to use it.

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4.Light and darkness

כְּדִכְתִיב: "וְרָאִיתִי שֶׁיֵּשׁ יִתְרוֹן לַחָכְמָה מִן הַסִּכְלוּת כִּיתְרוֹן הָאוֹר מִן הַחֹשֶׁךְ". פֵּרוּשׁ, כְּמוֹ שֶׁהָאוֹר יֵשׁ לוֹ יִתְרוֹן וּשְׁלִיטָה וּמֶמְשָׁלָה עַל הַחֹשֶׁךְ, שֶׁמְּעַט אוֹר גַּשְׁמִי דּוֹחֶה הַרְבֵּה מִן הַחֹשֶׁךְ שֶׁנִּדְחֶה מִמֶּנּוּ מֵאֵלָיו וּמִמֵּילָא, כָּךְ נִדְחֶה מִמֵּילָא סִכְלוּת הַרְבֵּה שֶׁל הַקְּלִפָּה וְסִטְרָא אַחֲרָא שֶׁבֶּחָלָל הַשְּׂמָאלִי כְּמַאֲמַר רַזַ"ל: "...אֶלָּא אִם כֵּן נִכְנַס בּוֹ רוּחַ שְׁטוּת" וכו'], מִפְּנֵי הַחָכְמָה שֶׁבַּנֶּפֶשׁ הָאֱלֹהִית שֶׁבַּמֹּחַ, אֲשֶׁר רְצוֹנָהּ לִמְשֹׁל לְבַדָּהּ בָּעִיר וּלְהִתְלַבֵּשׁ בִּשְׁלֹשָׁה לְבוּשֶׁיהָ הַנִּזְכָּרִים לְעֵיל בְּכָל הַגּוּף כֻּלּוֹ כַּנִּזְכָּר לְעֵיל, שֶׁהֵם מַחֲשָׁבָה דִּבּוּר וּמַעֲשֶׂה שֶׁל תַּרְיָ"ג מִצְוֹת הַתּוֹרָה כַּנִּזְכָּר לְעֵיל. וְאַף עַל פִּי כֵן

Translation

As Scripture says: “I perceived that wisdom has the edge over folly, just as light has the edge over darkness.” The meaning: light is superior to darkness and masters it, so that a small physical glow banishes much darkness, which simply flees on its own; in the same way, the abundant folly of kelipah and the sitra achra (the “other side”) in the left side of the heart [as the Sages taught: “No one sins unless a spirit of foolishness has entered into him”] is banished by itself before the wisdom of the G‑dly soul in the brain. That soul wishes to govern the city on its own and to spread through the entire body in its three garments described earlier, namely thinking, speaking and doing the Torah’s 613 mitzvos, as explained above.

Explanation

Everyone knows wisdom is better than folly, so why does Shlomo HaMelech need a mashal? Because here “wisdom” means holiness and “folly” means the kelipah, which the Sages call “a spirit of folly”, and the comparison shows how holiness rules. A little light pushes away a lot of darkness, by itself, without a fight.

So the beinoni has two things on his side: the mind rules the heart by nature, and holiness drives away kelipah by nature. A struggle that is only “my mind against my heart” can be hard. When the mind brings in holiness, a reason that is about G‑d and what He wants, the craving loses its grip far more easily.

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5.Why he is still not a tzaddik

אֵינוֹ נִקְרָא צַדִּיק כְּלָל, מִפְּנֵי שֶׁיִּתְרוֹן הַזֶּה אֲשֶׁר לְאוֹר נֶפֶשׁ הָאֱלֹהִית עַל הַחֹשֶׁךְ וְסִכְלוּת שֶׁל הַקְּלִפָּה הַנִּדְחֶה מִמֵּילָא, אֵינוֹ אֶלָּא בִּשְׁלֹשָׁה לְבוּשִׁים הַנִּזְכָּרִים לְעֵיל, וְלֹא בְּמַהוּתָהּ וְעַצְמוּתָהּ עַל מַהוּתָהּ וְעַצְמוּתָהּ שֶׁל הַקְּלִפָּה. כִּי מַהוּתָהּ וְעַצְמוּתָהּ שֶׁל נֶפֶשׁ הַבַּהֲמִית שֶׁמֵּהַקְּלִפָּה שֶׁבֶּחָלָל הַשְּׂמָאלִי לֹא נִדְחָה כְּלָל מִמְּקוֹמוֹ בַּבֵּינוֹנִי אַחַר הַתְּפִלָּה, שֶׁאֵין רִשְׁפֵּי אֵשׁ אַהֲבַת ה' בְּהִתְגַּלּוּת לִבּוֹ בֶּחָלָל הַיְּמָנִי, כִּי אִם תּוֹכוֹ רָצוּף אַהֲבָה מְסֻתֶּרֶת, שֶׁהִיא אַהֲבָה הַטִּבְעִית שֶׁבַּנֶּפֶשׁ הָאֱלֹהִית כְּמוֹ שֶׁיִּתְבָּאֵר לְקַמָּן.

וַאֲזַי יָכוֹל לִהְיוֹת סִכְלוּת הַכְּסִיל הָרַע בְּהִתְגַּלּוּת לִבּוֹ בֶּחָלָל הַשְּׂמָאלִי, לְהִתְאַוּוֹת תַּאֲוָה לְכָל עִנְיְנֵי גַּשְׁמִיּוּת עוֹלָם הַזֶּה, בֵּין בְּהֶתֵּר בֵּין בְּאִסּוּר חַס וְשָׁלוֹם, כְּאִלּוּ לֹא הִתְפַּלֵּל כְּלָל.

Translation

Nevertheless he does not earn the title tzaddik in any way. The superiority of the G‑dly soul’s light over kelipah’s darkness and foolishness, which flees on its own, applies only to the soul’s three garments; it does not mean that the soul’s own essence prevails over the essence of kelipah. For in the beinoni, once prayer is over, the animal soul itself, rooted in kelipah on the left side, has not been dislodged in the slightest. At that point his heart shows no burning love for G‑d on the right side; there is only “hidden love” enclosed within it, the natural love that belongs to the G‑dly soul, as will be discussed further on.

And so the folly of the evil fool can be revealed in his heart, in the left chamber, desiring all the physical things of this world, whether permitted or forbidden, G‑d forbid, as though he had not prayed at all.

Explanation

Still, the beinoni is not called a tzaddik at all, not even an incomplete one. His light rules only the garments. The animal soul itself, its mind and feelings, has not been moved from its place.

The text gives the reason. During prayer a revealed love of G‑d filled his heart. After prayer that fire is gone, and what remains is the “hidden love”, the natural love for G‑d in every Jew (chapter 18): real, but quiet. So the animal soul can again crave anything, permitted or forbidden, as if he had never prayed. Even permitted things are now wanted for the pleasure, not as a means to serve G‑d.

Outside, he and the tzaddik look the same. Inside, they are two different kinds of people.

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6.A thought may come; the deed is out of the question

אֶלָּא שֶׁבִּדְבַר אִסּוּר אֵינוֹ עוֹלֶה בְּדַעְתּוֹ לַעֲשֹוֹת הָאִסּוּר בְּפֹעַל מַמָּשׁ חַס וְשָׁלוֹם, אֶלָּא הִרְהוּרֵי עֲבֵרָה הַקָּשִׁים מֵעֲבֵרָה יְכוֹלִים לִפְעֹל, לַעֲלוֹת לְמֹחוֹ וּלְבַלְבְּלוֹ מִתּוֹרָה וַעֲבוֹדָה, וּכְמַאֲמָר רַזַ"ל: שָׁלֹשׁ עֲבֵרוֹת אֵין אָדָם נִצֹּל מֵהֶן בְּכָל יוֹם, הִרְהוּר עֲבֵרָה וְעִיּוּן תְּפִלָּה כו'.

רַק שֶׁלָּזֶה מוֹעִיל הָרְשִׁימוּ בַּמּוֹחִין, וְיִרְאַת ה' וְאַהֲבָתוֹ הַמְּסֻתֶּרֶת בֶּחָלָל הַיְּמָנִי, לְהִתְגַּבֵּר וְלִשְׁלֹט עַל הָרַע הַזֶּה הַמִּתְאַוֶּה תַּאֲוָה, שֶׁלֹּא לִהְיוֹת לוֹ שְׁלִיטָה וּמֶמְשָׁלָה בָּעִיר לְהוֹצִיא תַּאֲוָתוֹ מִכֹּחַ אֶל הַפֹּעַל לְהִתְלַבֵּשׁ בְּאֵבְרֵי הַגּוּף,

Translation

It is only that, where something forbidden is concerned, the idea of actually committing it never even occurs to him, G‑d forbid. But sinful thoughts, which [in some ways] are graver than the sin itself, may surface in his mind and pull him away from Torah study and divine service, as the Sages taught: “Three transgressions no one escapes on any given day: sinful musing, [inattention] in prayer….”

To counter this, though, the lingering effect on his mind, together with the awe and love of G‑d concealed in the right side of his heart, assists him in mastering this lustful evil, so that it gains no control over the city and cannot carry its craving into deed by entering the body’s limbs.

Explanation

His craving has one limit. When the thing is forbidden, actually doing it does not even enter his mind; it is out of the question. He may notice the pleasure, but he never makes a plan. What can reach him is a thought of sin, rising by itself and pulling him from learning and prayer. The Sages say no one is spared such thoughts on any day, and the beinoni is included.

Two things stop the craving there. One is the impression prayer left on his mind: the burning love is gone, but what he grasped of G‑d’s greatness stays with him through the day. The other is the hidden love and fear of G‑d in his heart. This is why prayer is so central: it carries the beinoni through the rest of his day.

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7.Pushed away with both hands

וַאֲפִלּוּ בַּמֹּחַ לְבַדּוֹ לְהַרְהֵר בָּרָע אֵין לוֹ שְׁלִיטָה וּמֶמְשָׁלָה לְהַרְהֵר חַס וְשָׁלוֹם בִּרְצוֹנוֹ שֶׁבְּמֹחוֹ, שֶׁיְּקַבֵּל בְּרָצוֹן חַס וְשָׁלוֹם הִרְהוּר זֶה הָרַע הָעוֹלֶה מֵאֵלָיו מֵהַלֵּב לַמֹּחַ כַּנִּזְכָּר לְעֵיל. אֶלָּא מִיָּד בַּעֲלִיָּתוֹ לְשָׁם דּוֹחֵהוּ בִּשְׁתֵּי יָדַיִם, וּמַסִּיחַ דַּעְתּוֹ מִיָּד שֶׁנִּזְכָּר שֶׁהוּא הִרְהוּר רַע, וְאֵינוֹ מְקַבְּלוֹ בְּרָצוֹן אֲפִלּוּ לְהַרְהֵר בּוֹ בְּרָצוֹן, וְכָל שֶׁכֵּן לְהַעֲלוֹתוֹ עַל הַדַּעַת לַעֲשׂוֹתוֹ חַס וְשָׁלוֹם אוֹ אֲפִלּוּ לְדַבֵּר בּוֹ. כִּי הַמְּהַרְהֵר בְּרָצוֹן נִקְרָא רָשָׁע בְּאוֹתָהּ שָׁעָה, וְהַבֵּינוֹנִי אֵינוֹ רָשָׁע אֲפִלּוּ שָׁעָה אַחַת לְעוֹלָם.

Translation

Even within the mind alone, in the matter of thinking about evil, the evil lacks the power to have him think it, G‑d forbid, by his mind’s own consent, meaning to welcome, G‑d forbid, a bad thought that comes up unbidden from the heart to the brain, as mentioned earlier. Instead, the instant it surfaces there, he shoves it away with both hands and diverts his attention, the moment he recognizes it for the bad thought it is. He refuses to entertain it willingly, refusing even to dwell on it by choice, let alone to contemplate acting on it, G‑d forbid, or even mentioning it aloud. Anyone who dwells on such thoughts by choice is termed a rasha for that time, and the beinoni is never a rasha, not even for an instant.

Explanation

Now the Alter Rebbe goes into the mind itself. Bad thoughts will come; the heart craves, and the craving shows up in the mind on its own. The beinoni is not blamed for that, any more than for having an animal soul.

What the evil cannot do is make him take the thought in willingly. The moment he notices it is a bad thought, he pushes it away “with both hands” and turns his mind elsewhere. He does not linger on it, still less plan it or speak of it. The line is drawn exactly there, because choosing to dwell on it would make him a rasha for that moment. No one has to finish every thought that comes into his head.

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8.Between a person and his fellow

וְכֵן בִּדְבָרִים שֶׁבֵּין אָדָם לַחֲבֵרוֹ, מִיָּד שֶׁעוֹלָה לוֹ מֵהַלֵּב לַמֹּחַ אֵיזוֹ טִינָה וְשִׂנְאָה חַס וְשָׁלוֹם, אוֹ אֵיזוֹ קִנְאָה אוֹ כַּעַס אוֹ קְפֵידָא וְדוֹמֵיהֶן, אֵינוֹ מְקַבְּלָן כְּלָל בְּמֹחוֹ וּבִרְצוֹנוֹ.

וְאַדְּרַבָּה הַמֹּחַ שַׁלִּיט וּמוֹשֵׁל בָּרוּחַ שֶׁבְּלִבּוֹ לַעֲשֹוֹת הַהֵפֶךְ מַמָּשׁ, לְהִתְנַהֵג עִם חֲבֵרוֹ בְּמִדַּת חֶסֶד וְחִבָּה יְתֵרָה מוּדַעַת לוֹ, לִסְבֹּל מִמֶּנּוּ עַד קָצֶה הָאַחֲרוֹן וְלֹא לִכְעֹס חַס וְשָׁלוֹם. וְגַם שֶׁלֹּא לְשַׁלֵּם לוֹ כְּפָעֳלוֹ חַס וְשָׁלוֹם, אֶלָּא אַדְּרַבָּה לִגְמֹל לְחַיָּבִים טוֹבוֹת, כְּמוֹ שֶׁכָּתוּב בַּזֹּהַר לִלְמֹד מִיּוֹסֵף עִם אֶחָיו.

Translation

So too in matters between a person and his fellow: as soon as some resentment or hatred, G‑d forbid, rises from his heart to his mind, or some jealousy, anger, grudge or the like, he does not let them into his mind and his will at all.

Instead his mind overrides what his heart feels and does exactly the reverse: he deals kindly with the other person and shows him even greater warmth, puts up with him as far as is humanly possible without losing his temper, G‑d forbid, and refrains from paying him back, G‑d forbid; quite the reverse, he rewards the wrongdoer with good, as the Zohar teaches us to learn from the way Yosef treated his brothers.

Explanation

The same holds with people. When someone hurts him, resentment, jealousy, anger or a grudge will rise in the beinoni too. He does not let them settle in his mind or will.

More than that, his mind leads him to do the very opposite of what his heart feels. He treats the other person kindly and goes out of his way to show him warmth. He bears with him to the very end, does not get angry, does not pay him back even calmly, and even does him favors, as Yosef fed and cared for the brothers who sold him. This is not a flood of saintly feeling. It is the mind ruling the heart, the same power he uses in serving G‑d.

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The Yesod: Who decides — the mind can always rule the heart

Chapter 12 draws a person we can recognize. The beinoni is not free of struggle. After prayer his animal soul wakes up at full strength: he wants what he should not want, resents those who hurt him, and has thoughts he never asked for. Inside he is divided. Yet in thought, speech and action he never sins. The difference between him and the rasha is not in what he feels but in who decides.

The foundation is mind over heart, built into every human being from birth. A desire, however loud, is a feeling. It cannot move a hand or the mouth, or even hold a thought in place, unless the mind lets it. When the heart is on fire it seems no reason can stand against it; that is the heart’s illusion. Many defeats come from a mind that was asleep, not from a heart that was stronger; the mind is always able to rule, and using it is the avodah. And when the mind’s reason is holiness, the craving gives way the way darkness gives way to a candle.

Two things keep the mind awake: prayer, the set time each day when the G‑dly soul rules even inside, whose impression carries him through the hours after; and the hidden love of G‑d every Jew carries, quiet but always there.

This changes how a person sees himself. When the inspiration fades and the old wants return, it is easy to decide that the inspiration was a dream and the animal is the “real me”. The beinoni expects the animal soul to wake after prayer and is ready for it. Feeling the pull is not failure; it is what a beinoni is.

And it gives a real goal. The tzaddik, who no longer even wants what is wrong, is far from most of us. The beinoni is within reach wherever a person starts, even after past sins, once he has done teshuvah and sin has no place in his life. Never letting the animal soul decide is not a lesser life. It is the life this book was written to teach.

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Points to ponder

  1. When a craving shouts “now”, do I bring my mind into the fight, or do I let it sleep?
  2. What did my prayer this morning leave in my mind that I can carry into the afternoon?
  3. Which thought do I keep “finishing”, when I could push it away the moment I notice it?
  4. When inspiration fades, do I quietly decide that my animal side is the real me?
  5. Who has hurt me lately, and what is one kindness my mind could choose toward him this week?